Monday, 30 June 2014

The Fundamental Needs of a Person


The Fundamental Needs of a Person

Apart from the basic needs of food shelter and clothing, there are certain fundamental needs which everyone has in common and with the help of these we can live our life comfortably. Difficulties due to these missing  fundamental needs tend to develop stress along with loneliness  and it is then when the problem arises - be it anxiety, depression, addiction, isolation etc. It is therefore very essential to know what our own garden of life needs in order to keep it manicured, healthy and bustling, so that the moment something starts withering, we can take an immediate action to put a check on to it and also apply the necessary remedy to keep it prospering.

1. The need to give and receive attention.
We all love company and the need to give and receive attention plays a significance role in our behaviour. We learn a lot from the society around us and it is a wonderful change from our daily routine to keep us healthy and active. If we are not socialistic, our mental condition, emotional state and behaviour suffers quite drastically. We can visualise this when our parents or grandparents often stay within their confined within the household premises. They are much comfortable when sitting within a group and participating in the communication taking place. A few hours of being listened to would suffice their need of belongingness. Even children going to school after a long vacation command the teacher's attention all the time, asking questions and not really listening to the answers!

2. Taking heed of the mind body connection.
This is so important and often neglected. Without correct and regular nutrition, sleep and exercise, our psychological state can suffer considerably. It is often seen that young people, on leaving home find it difficult to cope up with the external environment and often fall sick. Their mealtimes, sleep patterns and other regular habits become disrupted, with predictable consequences and they start treating themselves as machines! If our body is healthy, we shall always remain fit and healthy and our efficiency in work shall increase our output to higher levels.

3. The need for goals with a meaningful purpose.
 
If a person is not focused and does not know his goals hence is deprived of the outward focus , then the happiness and satisfaction which he gets those positive results on the accomplishment of his tasks is taken away from him leaving him in a depressed state.

4. A sense of community and making a contribution.
Elderly people can obviously share ideas with other people of their age and collectively form a club that works for charity or community or any such social cause i.e. engross themselves in any kind of work that takes the focus off the self. It gives them a reason for being, over and above their own personal needs, that benefits the immune system, mental health and happiness.

5. The need for challenge and creativity.
Learning something new, expanding horizons, improving on existing skills all provide a sensation of progress and achievement. Without this, we can feel worthless, so we should be elf –motivated to accept and take-up new challenges in life and meet them with sagaciously with our innovative skills.

6. The need for intimacy.
Tying in with the need for confidence is the best way to distinguish the strength of intimacy we share with that individual as we all need someone very close to share our thoughts, ideas, hopes and dreams with. Most of us require at least one individual with whom we can converse 'on the same level' and share our thoughts, feelings and activities etc. This lightens as well as motivates the inner self of any individual.

7. The need for remodeling.
It's important to feel important. For this always keep updating yourself with the latest news, current surroundings. Don’t be rigid and orthodox, be flexible and accept the changes that come along. The way we modernize our house and decorate the best of upholstery and latest electronic gadgets, the same way we should keep remodelling ourselves for our betterment as this shall always bring a new awakening within us.

8. The need for a sense of safety and security.
We need to feel our environment is basically secure and reasonably predictable. Financial security, physical safety and health, and the fulfilment of other basic needs along with the fundamental ones all together contribute to the completion our own selves.

So the message is...

If you are feeling lost and fatigued as the some part of the journey through life has gone a bit awry, besides you are feeling depressed and are close to tears much of the time with irrational thoughts, then just don’t sit back and moan, instead just understand that you’re continuously ignoring our mind and body's needs and are facing its severe consequences. Just get up and start afresh. Go for a fresh morning walk, eat a healthy breakfast and go out to meet your friends. Do not look back into the past, think of something new to start with whatever resources you have. After some time you shall find yourself completely transformed.

“LIVE YOUR LIFE”

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Sunday, 29 June 2014


 The Power Self - Awareness


God has made every individual special, with something unique and distinct. It’s just that we are ignorant and unaware of it. We are unique because we connect to every human being on earth in some way or the other and this gives us the gifts of empathy and compassion that develops faith in each other. There’s an intrinsic connection between us that describes us as indefinable.

The world we live in is constantly changing, but we are also not always aware of the subtle changes taking place within ourselves, in our perception and behaviour, in the way we relate to each other and our goals in life. The tumultuous times of change we live with are proving to be much more subtle than anticipated. Even more, we fail to see the major causes which are responsible for generating these changes for better or worse.

Over the years, as you grow up, from a child into career-making, home-making and raising families of your own, your attention is so focused upon the demands of the outside world that you tend to lose your own individuality. We learn to intentionally hold our thoughts and feelings to our own selves. We forget that we too are born with some specialty or the other that is hidden by our duties, liabilities and responsibilities for others.

When we get so engrossed towards performing our duties that we also get unidentified with our sensations.  Who is happy? Me.  Who is angry, tired, frustrated . . . ?  Me.  Our feelings acquire names, and at the same time, we are judged by those feelings. We can only discover the true inner self in silence as to: who I am? What I want to be? What are my liking's? What exactly I want to do…? Even if we are troubled and confused, this non-reactive quality of presence to ourselves allows us to restore ourselves to a sense of wholeness. This power of awareness is esoteric, but there is nothing surreptitious about being attentive as the future for humanity is not ambiguous.

This real inner self, that accordingly seems to be extinct, is always alive within us, giving us the strength to fight for our survival in the outer world without even being aware of it.

Each person’s inner self is cultivated and treasured for its uniqueness and there is always potential for self-improvement. Along with this inner development, comes a clearer sense of intuition with a better insight with which we easily identify the best course of action to successfully meet any challenge. Along with this also comes synchronicity and life begins to fold around our envisioned plan of action, supporting it by providing opportunities and resources just when they are needed the most.

We all should spare some time for our own selves and find the answers of the question of ‘W’ family i.e. which, why, where, what, whom etc. for example which is are favourite colour and why is it favourite? Whom do we want to talk with and why? Such type of questions will not only help us in discovering ourselves, but will also help us in solving issues arising in our daily life. Watching television, playing computer or mobile games, listening to music with earphones always takes us far away from our own self. Instead going for a walk, sitting in isolation for some time thinking, lying down and relaxing and thinking etc. shall strengthen our persona giving us a new perspective approach towards life. Life that once seemed to be tough and boring shall be full of enthusiasm and happiness.

This new self-awareness focuses upon knowing ourselves through self-realization and self-development as our sense of responsibility becomes powered by love rather than fear and we are totally transformed. We do no harm to others because we love our people, not because we are afraid of anything, it’s just because our awareness has grown into matured adulthood. We no longer need to be told what to do, how to think, or what our place in life ‘should’ be. In this light of self-awareness where we ripen a sense of unconditional love for ourselves, our self-esteem is boosted and restored in the knowledge that every person has a unique gift (quality/ability) to offer the world and this internal awakening that we too are special and can contribute with something precious, gives rise to a new era into our lives.

We need to discover and strengthen that inner awareness within us to set an example to others that, life is meant to be lived with togetherness and fulfilment which comes when we all follow the same path to become stronger, we can then lead a life of spontaneous fulfilment even with greater external pressures.

With that goal in mind, we should set up a daily schedule to practice meditation or go for walk or can even spend some time in isolation giving few minutes of self-actualization also to become stronger and tougher. It is Human nature that if we are self-aware, we tend to take it negatively and enter the domain of the being self-centered and mean, sulking our immediate consciousness once again into that of detachment and biasedness.  There is nothing wrong in discovering our real selves as the power of awareness shall always strengthen our spiritual muscles, by bringing us over and over again, into the immediate present, as each and every movement back to awareness grounds into a new dynamic and confident personality.

Self-awareness restores us to a more complete consciousness and this doesn't necessarily mean that our problems disappear, but as we exercise the power of awareness, our reflexive reactivity diminishes and it gives us the power to start from a fresh, open and less conditioned life.

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Friday, 27 June 2014

Way to Happiness.


Way to Happiness. 

It’s an excellent piece of advice in you are feeling low and down today.   

“In order to Divorce yourself from unhappiness,
Always keep the treasurers of happiness with you " 

    
This story is about a beautiful, rich, expensively dressed lady who complains to her psychiatrist that she felt that her whole life was empty and it had no meaning. 
  
This lady went to visit a counsellor to seek out happiness.  The counsellor then said to the rich lady "I'm going to ask Sita here to tell you how she found happiness. All I want you to do is listen to her." The counsellor called over the old lady who was a sweeper and cleaned the office floors.  
  
Sita put down her broom, sat on a chair and stared narrating her story: "My husband died of malaria and three months later when my only son was killed by a car.  I was left all alone and had nobody... I had nothing left.  The world seemed to be an end for me as I couldn't sleep, I couldn't eat, I never smiled at anyone and once I even thought of taking my own life. Then one evening, God knows from where, a little puppy followed me home from work.  It was very cold outside.  Somehow I felt sorry for that kitten, so I decided to let the puppy in. I got it some milk, and the puppy licked the plate clean.  Then it purred and rubbed against my leg and, for the first time in months, I smiled. It was that moment when I was forced to think that if just helping a little puppy could make me smile, maybe doing something for people could make me happy and give me a reason to live. So the next day, very enthusiastically, I baked some biscuits and took them to a neighbour who was sick in bed. I sat for some time to talk to him he was very happy and felt grateful for my consideration. This made me proud of myself. Every day I tried to do something nice for someone and every time it made me so happy to see them happy. Today, I don't know of anybody who sleeps and eats better than I do. I've found happiness, by giving it to others." 

 
 On hearing Sita's story that the rich lady could not hold back her tears and cried like a small child. She had everything that money could buy, but she had lost the things which money cannot buy. 
  
"The beauty of life does not depend on how happy you are; But on how happy others can be because of you..."

AS

  Happiness is not a destination, it's a journey. 
Happiness is not tomorrow, it is now. 
Happiness is not a dependency, it is a decision. 
Happiness is what you are, not what you have. 
  
May your troubles be less, May your blessings be more, May nothing but happiness come through your door! 
  
Wishing all your days be filled with Happiness, Peace And Good Health.


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Thursday, 26 June 2014

FOR MY BELOVED WIFE

FOR MY BELOVED WIFE

Every time I think of her,
My mind and heart is to the brim
With so much that I want to say,
A whole lifetime if less, I pray…
And so much love I want to show,
A whole lifetime is less, you know!

Where have you been love, my dearest wife?
Why don’t you find me in your life?
“Don’t bother”, says my mind… “Its fate”
I do realise… Still it’s never too late…
To find the kindred spirit true
Embalmed with love… just for you…for you!

You led me to action, beyond mere words,
Your actions inspired me as passwords.
You did not preach, you did not teach,
Yet you made everything easy within my reach.

Where are you my dear beloved soul?
Come to me with that courteous smile
With so much that I want to say,
A whole lifetime if less, I pray…
And so much honey I want you to know,
I LOVE YOU AND LOVE YOU, YOU OUGHT TO KNOW!
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Tuesday, 24 June 2014

Obesity: A rising epidemic in the World.

Obesity: A rising epidemic in the World.

Obesity is a serious world-wide health epidemic affecting one in four. It is a serious disease characterized by excessive body fat also considered to be a "Killer lifestyle" disease which is an important cause of preventable death worldwide. According to the World Health Organization (WHO), 1.2 billion people worldwide are officially classified as overweight. If we only consider one country, India, the present scenario, even with so much of growing awareness about health and fitness, more than three percent (approx. three crores) of the Indian population is obese. A country where 270 million people live below the 'poverty line', obesity seems to be a distant issue, meant for the rich kids of first world. But India is under siege: junk food, alcohol and sedentary lifestyle are leading us to silent self-destruction, making one in every five Indian men and women either obese or overweight.

This is the plight of just one country. What about the rest of the world. The researches have estimated that the current adult human population weighs about 287 million tonnes, 15 million of which is due to needless flab and 3.5 million due to outright obesity and the figure for future predictions are even more alarming that by 2050 there could be 2.3 billion more people on the planet. There is an urgent need to put in more efforts to create public awareness about the repercussions of obesity and the need to curb it. People who are medically obese are usually affected by behavioural, genetic and environmental factors that are difficult to control even with dieting. This problem is expected to get worse as obesity is increasing and no national success stories of controlling it has been reported in the past 33 years. According to Christopher Murray, director of the Institute for Health Metrics and Evaluation (IHME) that conducted the analysis for the study, "In the last three decades, not one country has achieved success in reducing obesity rates, and we expect obesity to rise steadily as incomes rise in low- and middle income countries in particular.

What is obesity and why is it caused?

This is a much bigger question which has to be understood and acted upon. The irony of the situation is that we all are well aware of it , but still are not determined to act accordingly. Obesity among children and adolescents is rising rapidly because the intake of calories is more than burning it over, which are stored as fats leading to energy imbalance and the main contributors to it are behaviour, environment and genetics. Behaviour, in the case of obesity, relates to food choices, amount of physical activity and the effort put to maintain our health. Based on food choices, many people love and enjoy eating less nutritive calorie-rich food which directly relates to the increase in meal quantity either at home or when dining out.

The entrance of modern technology and Internet has made people lazy and immobile." Children are increasingly becoming less active in this digital age where with rising incomes, cheap fast food and unattended access to video games has resulted in a marked shift from cereals, fruit and vegetables to packed preserved food and junk food etc. Outdoor activities have come to an end as children love to sit indoors and surfing and chatting on internet, playing computer or mobile games etc. Sitting in an air-conditioned atmosphere restricts them to physically use their body and burn the calorie intake. Moreover, previously there was a thrust upon home cooked food which was nutritive and harmless, but today a large number of the population has started relying on processed foods that contains a huge percentage of trans-fat, sugars, and other unhealthy and artificial ingredients. Previously where people faced the problem of under nutrition, today, they are exposed to the "over nutrition of the modern world through globalisation". 

The major roots of obesity lie in lack of physical activity, environmental attitude, family heredity, dietary patterns and socioeconomic status etc. Since childhood obesity is not just a cosmetic problem but with lifestyle disorders, even children and younger people are developing joint disorders, knee pain etc. with the risk of developing osteoarthritis. Obesity is the core of many diseases too such as high blood pressure, diabetes, cancer and cardiovascular ailments etc. Yet, we seem to do nothing to counter the menace, allowing ourselves to be controlled by a "pandemic", happily shrugging off the dangers with unpardonable nonchalance.

Side effects of obesity:

a) Social Acceptance: Social acceptance and weight control are inter-related today the teenagers as well as adults are battling with weight problems, emotional problems or a combination of both for people who are suffering from eating disorders face severe problems that can sometimes lead to fatal consequences also. A person’s outward appearance promotes other individuals to “judge” and “accept” them based in the society on weight factors alone. Obesity does make you feel lethargic that affects your body language too resulting in people believing that overweight individuals are lazy or have no self-control, and these negative stereotypes just help reinforce the view that obesity is the fault of the overweight person.

b) Discrimination: Discrimination against people who are overweight transpires frequently and many times we may not even realize that we are being discriminatory. Corporate firms, business houses and even small firms etc. prefer thin, smart and good looking personalities to project the high standards of the company.

c) Need for a satisfactory love life: Acceptance in the group is not adequate. Each man and woman yearns to be all-important to just one individual. Each man craves a place in the heart of one woman that no other man can take. Each woman wants to be indispensable to one man. Every person wants to reign supreme in the heart of one individual, but your inner inhibitions hold you back from moving forward.

d) Feeling of insecurity: An overweight (obese) person feels insecure and unhappy as they are well aware of their physique which deepens this feeling that sometimes touches its dangerous levels of desperation in the effort to match up with a societal ideal.

e) Lack of confidence: The confidence of most people is tied directly into their body and self-image. Fat people are generally more self-conscious and feel terrible about their weight problem. We all have a mental picture of who we are, how we look, what we are good at and what our weaknesses might be. How we feel about ourselves can influence the way we live our lives. Everyone wants to feel valued, loved and accepted.

f) Unhealthy lifestyle: Overweight people lack the discipline and character to make solid long term moves that shall keep them healthy. He never enjoys being active and doing things, instead prefers to enjoy staying at home, doing other non-physical activities like watching television, gossiping with other members of the house etc. His sluggishness and increasing appetite, his periodic breathlessness, occasional dizzy spells and pain in the knees confine him permanently to the house and this leads them to depression with an anonymous feeling of not being liked by anyone etc.

REJECTION: 

Where acceptance is friendly, there rejection is an evil twin. We are deeply hurt and this very feeling bubbles up when we are excluded from lunch with co-workers, fail to land the job you interviewed for or are dumped by a romantic partner. Being rejected is bad for health then we feel isolated, lonely and excluded. We are also prone to have poor physical health, tend to lose sleep and more over often lose the zeal to live even if surrounded by those who care about them.
Rejection not only makes us feel lousy but also reduces or efficiency during performance on difficult intellectual tasks which further contributes to aggression as well as poor impulse control. Social rejection aches like that physical pain which cannot be treated thus increases anger, anxiety, depression, jealousy and sadness in an individual. Being excluded is directly associated with poor mental health leading to unhappiness and depression. A feeling of exclusion can also contribute to suicide.

A greater need for awareness with strong determination:

Human beings have two psychological cravings where the first is for love, affection, warmth and caring, there the second is for approval, recognition or affirmation.
All elders, children, young or old need to peep into the bottom of their hearts and take a pledge that whatever be, they shall help each other from this major disease. We all should stop each other from cheating on food where parents should be very particular towards their child’s outdoor physical activities. Restrictions should be put on outside junk food and a silent check on the activities of their children is of utmost importance. Counselling and life-coaching can help in promoting self-perceptions to have an impact on self-esteem. Our body is a fine-tuned machine that requires maintenance and work for optimal performance.

We should be focused and should not hesitate to seek treatment if unable to control obesity ourselves. In addition to seeking treatment, it is also important to eat a healthy and nutrient dense diet, so that our body benefits from all the vitamins, minerals, and other nutrients. Eliminate foods that are processed, high in calories while being low in nutrients, high in fat, sugar, and salt and eat several smaller meals a day, incorporating an acceptable exercise program based on our ability and it is only then, when we will definitely see and feel a difference. Once our health will improve significantly, then our clothes will fit better giving a big boost to our overall personality and self-esteem making us look confident and smart.

Obesity: a growing concern?

In this century, people have become used to the fast paced life. This lifestyle change is, not only causing negative effects on their health, body and mind but also, becoming a cause of many chronic and cardiovascular diseases. Overweight and obesity were first considered a problem of rich countries only, but now they have become a concern in many countries. India is not an exception to them and there are rising numbers of people in middle-class that are obese.

Most of the countries are following rising trends in obesity. With the industrialization, the countries are becoming richer and the citizens are becoming obese and seeking medical help. People do not want to walk and prefer to drive to work. Statistics show that these countries are on the urge of becoming a nation with more than half of its population being obese or suffering weight related illnesses and diseases.

People are attracted towards processed foods. A lot of them have started relying on processed food which contains a huge percentage of Trans fat, sugars, and other unhealthy and artificial ingredients. Such fats build up in a person’s body may causes them to suffer from chronic diseases and severe illnesses. A few years ago operations and surgeries were not needed because people were active and did not rely on processed food. These days’ plastic surgeons and doctors are in high demand to perform surgeries to make a person look slimmer and prevent their bodies against diseases.

People, today have no time to exercise due to their busy schedule. Many who want to exercise don’t have time to due to the commitments they have made. People need to start managing their time accordingly so they have some time of their busy life devoted for exercising. They need to make an agenda for the day and find some time which they can use to exercise. Another reason why obesity is a concern is due to alcohol and drugs and its side.

The government of such countries should start implementing their concerns for obesity in schools as children these days are not aware of the diseases obesity can cause. We need to increase child awareness and start helping the ones who have chosen path to come back on track.

There are lots of ways to reduce obesity. One of them is that one should eat a fruit salad instead of eating sweets and high calorie diets. More thrust on green vegetables and foods that have low levels of fat should be given. Everyone should eat healthy food, exercise daily and try your best to always be relaxed and stress free.

Eat healthy, stay fit, energetic and feel fresh!


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Monday, 23 June 2014

LET BYGONES BE BYGONES

LET BYGONES BE BYGONES

As we all know since child hood that lion is the king of the jungle. One day all the animals united and decided that they have to change their king because sitting on the throne from long had made him very conceited and haughty. Taking the throne for granted, he did not even care for the right or wrong. With the choice of all the other animals, it was decided to make monkey their king. The monkey felt honoured and happily took over his new challenging post.

Few days passed by when one day, while a mother goat was wandering in the jungle with her kid, even before she could realise, her kid ran towards the den of an old lion who was sitting outside, waiting for his prey. His mouth watered at the sight of the small, tiny innocent kid and the moment, the kid reached within his reach, he immediately pounced and held him captive between his paws.

The sight of her kid into the clutches of the lion frightened the goat and she knelt down in front of the lion begging him to spare the life of her innocent kid or take her instead as his meal. She even requested and reminded him of his superiority as a king. The arrogant lion growled back reminding her that the monkey was their present king and to expect anything from him would be worthless.

Seeing her efforts go in vain and the need of the hour, she immediately took a U-turn and ran towards the monkey, the new king, for the safety of her kid. The monkey peacefully listened to her plight and fully assured her that he would definitely save her kid and shall leave no stone unturned for the same. Without wasting time, the goat once again ran back towards the den while the monkey swung from one tree to another and reached the den within no time.


Seeing the kid into the lion’s clutches made his heart come into his mouth and he humbly requested the lion to leave the kid as it was an order from the king. The lion in return looked at him and mocked at him. The monkey got angry at him and started screaming and screeching at the lion and started jumping from one branch to another for hours. The lion paid no heed to this, instead killed the kid and ate him up.
 
The goat wailed and cried when the monkey came up to her and tried to pacify her by saying that she could understand his position for she herself, was a witness to the hard efforts he had put for hours together in trying to save her kid and there was no lacking on his part. The poor goat was helpless as well as astonished and speechless

THE MORAL OF THE STORY:

Now, if we apply the same story to the present regime (Monkey), saying that the people of this country (Goat) now believe in RESULTS produced by the government and definitely not as their best efforts and always saying that we are into the mess due to the misdeed of the past regime. The time of blame game is now over and immediate actions have to be initiated.

As the old saying, “LET BYGONES BE BYGONES” so let us forget what had been done in the past and we should stop taking cover of their wrong actions while doing our present deed. The past government (Lion) which is no longer in power and people of this country were living like a KID of the goat i.e. at the mercy of them and now they have been transformed into matured adult goats by proving their existence in the recent elections and now are very hopeful towards the new government.  We do understand that it will take time for various issues to materialize, but at least the most common instant issues can be taken into consideration on the top most priority like inflation, price rise, power cuts and rapes etc. which are terribly affecting common man the most.

One of the most burning issues is of the Residents of the Campa Cola Society, Mumbai. What is the fault of those hundreds of innocent residents who have put their hard earned money just to buy a roof on their head?  They have been cheated by those builders, who for their personal gains, with connivance of unscrupulous officials have brought them towards the end of the road, who themselves are not even aware of how to prove their innocence towards this fraudulent act of others. Why were the plans sanctioned if they were unauthorized? How were they allowed to construct? How were they allowed to have access to basic amenities like sewer, power, gas pipe line and electricity etc.?

Can the present regime be bold enough to take serious action against those builders, unwarranted officers and all those unprincipled elements involved in this? Why not impose heavy penalties on such builders, suspension of officers involved and legal action be initiated against all of them including regularizing these flats? The outcome of demoting these flats will only result into environmental hazard by way of rubble of construction material, thus making it look deformed and defaced. 


Can the President be sympathetic and emotional enough to grant them relief so that they are not displaced from their homes and mercy petition be allowed as a symbol for others to follow the positive view in all such matters while taking their decisions in conclusiveness.




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Friday, 20 June 2014

PATIENCE

PATIENCE

Patience is an admirable quality which empowers an individual to be calm and peaceful. Patience is the ability to endure waiting, delay, or provocation without becoming annoyed or upset, or to persevere calmly when faced with difficulties.

Keeping patience does not mean impassiveness or resignation, but it reflects the powerful aura of the person. It’s an emotional practice of waiting, watching, and knowing when to act at the right moment and right time. Patience is an art that personifies any individual personally as well as professionally. Patient people do not generate stress, tension or pressure. They understand that their strong qualities and given time to them enables their talents come through. A patient person can facilitate anyone, who is shy or has lost confidence and is nervous at exposing himself to criticism or failure, to reform himself and feel more courageous at trying something new.

The Importance of Patience

A person with immense calm and serenity has inner peace, blended with a soft sense of control with wonderfully measured balanced persona. They are very comfortable to spend time with people and this enables others in their company to become relaxed and stress-free.

Life is not all about one person and what that person wants and expects because compromise is often part of the bigger picture too. Respecting each other’s own strengths and difficulties is an important part of co-existence, but taking time to respect each other’s differences and appreciate that each of us have our own strengths and weaknesses can teach us patience with other people and handling different kind of situations. We can expect a little tolerance and understanding when we are trying our best so as to return the same to others is also an even-handed action. Patience is of utmost importance in any one’s life:

It helps you avoid making impulsive decisions.

It helps you reflect on your own impulses and urges.

It helps you control feelings of greed and selfishness.

It helps to change your attitude in life. 

It reminds you that you are not always in control and you can't always have control - so have faith and keep calm.

It helps you to teach self-control and calmness.

It teaches you humility.

It allows you to stop and truly appreciate what you have achieved after putting great efforts.

It teaches you to acknowledge and appreciate what you have at present because if you can't appreciate it then you'll never value what the future has in store for you.

Patience truly is a VIRTUE!  At times, many of us are impatient; with ourselves and others, then by the virtue of patience, our impatience may be our demise. 

Patience builds our reputation. “Many of life’s failures are when we do not realize how close we were to success when we gave up.” Building our reputation as a leader in these challenging times requires a lot of patience. Managing our reputation as a leader begins by mastering the skill of patience and never giving up the cherished desired objectives.

Patience gives way to remarkable results.  Building our brand and reputation takes times; it doesn’t happen overnight. Successful brand leadership begins with patience and a commitment to the due diligence necessary for excellence.

Patience leads to positive recognition. 


There is always a reward for the virtue of patience. This reward may be greater sales, increased customer satisfaction, stronger profits, a promotion, satisfaction towards achievements, overcoming the failures, planning right decisions  and acting on to it with unlimited efforts, execution process etc. But this realization begins only while understanding the causes of impatience because the most basic reasons for being impatient are lack of control, lack of understanding, lack of planning, lack of communication and unrealistic expectations of results etc. When you claim control of these issues you are privileged to the rewards that patience can contribute.

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Thursday, 19 June 2014

Money

Money is ubiquitous and plays a central role in our daily lives. It is an important tool in our lives and gives us a better life with great comfort in life. Some people consider its necessity only to meet the daily needs, where on the other side, some consider it secondary. It plays a critical role to make our life easy, comfortable and also makes us optimistic. One must make money to the extent that it gives happiness, contentment and peace without getting avaricious or lustful. Money is required to purchase food, the basic needs of survival and good education for a better future etc.

Money provides security, establishes our independence that equips one to exercise power and wields influence? Today, these goals are often identified as appropriate purposes for earning money, but this can be very dangerous too, as it does nothing but enhances our expectations from our own self. In truth there are four basic fundamental purposes for money: to provide for basic needs, to confirm direction, to give to those in need, and care.

We should be well aware of what our basic needs are actually? For most middle or upper middle class, basic needs are not very basic anymore. A comfortable and healthy living with adequate shelter, new clothing, plenty of food, health care and education, while also saving for old age is sufficient for any individual’s survival. “Meeting basic needs” requires effort and dedication, but once those basic needs are met, take a good look at your life and at career choices. Work-life balance is important, so once our basic needs have been met and happiness is achieved, then engage in activities that are interesting and spend time with friends and family to stay prosperous, active and charming.

Money provides access to everything one wishes for because that´s how society is structured. Children can have the best education and health care and it makes you feel more secured as you tend to have more control over your life. Where a rich can pay for the treatment in the best hospital, best doctor with the best technology there a poor mainly depends on social subsidies with cheapest medicines in government hospitals or road side physician etc. Without money, it´s hard to even fulfill your basic needs and even more difficult do the things you really need to do.

Money is just something that can be exchanged for goods and services but not for feelings. It doesn't mean that people with money are happy because, in reality, they might be facing with other materialistic problems like debts, over expenditures, spoilt children, illness, sleepless nights etc. whereas a poor person does not have money but still after a day of hard work comes home, sits and gossips with his family and neighbours and after dinner has a sound sleep under a starry night because he has no debts, overhead expenditures etc. The requirement of his family are indeed very limited.

On top of that a little extra money can make life more pleasant. While constantly chasing after money results only in unhappiness but having a little extra disposable income adds to one’s enjoyment of life. One doesn't need a great deal of it to be happy, especially when there is no replacement for the time spent with loved ones. Beware of the temptation of wanting more, and more and more because when you can’t afford an item that is beyond the “basic need” category, so accept the fact that you can’t afford it.  

Life is depressing, uncomfortable and stressful when the basic needs of food, shelter, clothing and transportation are not met or are difficult to meet. If you are frugal and resourceful, you might not need a great deal of money to meet these needs. While money may not be everything, but it is certainly something, and happiness and security cannot be gained if we do not have it enough to cover at least the basic needs. Today, the lust for more and more is the most socially paralyzing structure that humanity can ever endured and this has given money an evil look... The endless greed of competing with others financial status, hunger for the best luxuries in life has made everything in the environment corrupt and unhealthy.

Some people believe that money can buy everything when the others assert that it cannot. Money can´t buy everything, for example, something like happiness and love can´t be bought, it doesn´t replace important things like family, friends and its bonding etc. Money can buy books but not knowledge; Money can buy medicine but not health; Money can buy a house but not a home; money can buy relationship but not love and so on which means that money too has limited applications. The lust for more and more entwines the person into a whirlpool  from a point of no return, thus making life miserably haunted, distressed and wounded without any cure trapped into a deep ditch of wealth.
  
“Money can’t buy happiness but it can make life more pleasant”:  Money is necessary to provide for our basic needs. And only a certain amount of money is needed for building blocks of happiness or security. It’s quite difficult to be happy when you don’t have access to the basic necessities of life. Food, clothing, and shelter are necessary to maintain life. Focusing on these basic needs allows an individual to live simply and contentedly within his means and feel wealthy because he knows that he already possesses more than he needs for daily living. When an individual is contented with the basics then money confirm the direction in which he is moving during his lifetime. And this is where money and happiness come together.

As money is that crossing which leads towards only two directions Good or Bad: Happiness, contentment security, power, freedom, success and recognition etc come under good directions. Attitude, selfishness, greed, attraction towards evil temptations and arrogance come under bad directions.

Once these basic needs are fulfilled, you start focusing for future requirements and then it is necessary to evaluate the priorities considering ways to use money to one’s own satisfaction. While there is nothing wrong with wanting an increase of income, and looking for ways to earn more money, it is important not to let the desire for having excessive amounts of money, overcome you. At one point of time, money stops being a mode to make life enjoyable, and it becomes a source of unhappiness.

Nothing is perfect and there will always be something or the other that one doesn't possess; trying to have all that others have for contentment and happiness results in futility and nothing else. Your attitude towards money determines whether it contributes to your comfort and quality of living, or whether your desire for it that results in discontent and unhappiness.

Today, money represents power and status, and we are compulsively driven to accumulate wealth in the hope that it will bring the security and validation that we yearn for.  Yet, at some point, we may lose it all. Money matters but money isn’t everything in life because if the basic needs for shelter, clothing and food are not met, it makes life tough and difficult to live. With the saying that money does not buy happiness, it generally means the voracity for “extra money”.
Though, to develop feelings of self-worth and contentment is a good quality, one should not forget to build strong relationships with family and friends to enjoy life fully in frugal ways which makes the world a wonderful place to live in.

Everything in our lives reflects our consciousness.  Learn the art of patience as it is of utmost importance and is worth going through tribulations in order to obtain it. Our beliefs, attitudes, expectations, feelings, and emotional patterns are all mirrored in the circumstances and events of our lives.  The more we love and support ourselves emotionally, we shall attract love as well as supportive behavior from others. Life offers few opportunities to be true in reality, so if we have confidence in our abilities, we will probably be able to decipher the best ones to use them for our own benefit. Because “Fools work for money - wise men make money work for them.”
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