COURTESY

 COURTESY

Courtesy is extending respect and politeness in our attitude and behaviour towards others by actions and words for example; by holding open a door for someone or by allowing someone to speak without interrupting or by phoning ahead before visiting show how courteous we are etc. Being courteous is not just a social grace, but it also distinguishes and separates civilized people from those who think only of themselves. Courtesy costs nothing, but gives plenty! A simple courteous smile is as powerful as a please or a thank you. It takes no effort to do so, but can change the environment drastically which can make things move fast.

Gentle and polite behaviour in dealing with people is an act of civility and good manners. Courtesy is a great virtue in a man's life which demands one to be modest, tasteful and decent in his talking and behaving with others. It is a beautiful gift of treating others with warmth and respect. It means according dignity to people by being considerate, responsive, and kind in our dealings with them. To be courteous and refined makes an individual a better person which equips a higher quality life that everyone deserves. Refinement within is polishing down of our own self, casting out the coarse and vulgar by retaining the fine and elegant.

This act of refinement can be easily understood by comparing it with the process of polishing of diamonds to gain tremendous brilliance for diamonds in their raw form are not shiny at all. Similarly refinement consists of subduing the tendencies to slovenliness, crudeness, bluntness, nerviness and gaudiness, instead encourages good manners, kindness, courteousness, considerateness, propriety and gentility. The act of pursuing refinement is synonymous with being courteous and learning how to be elegant and how to be classy. A refined and courteous woman is an elegant and classy woman. By being courteous pursuing refinement and elegance, you are developing your character, heart and mind.

Refinement also helps a person of worth to be more fully recognized and appreciated. It elevates their social standing and confidence. A refined person gains considerable influence much more easily than a person with sloppy habits, despite being an awesome person. When a person pursues and values refinement, not only will they earn the approval of people around them, they will respect and appreciate themselves. A person who is sloppy, careless, blunt or rude, it may seem that he or she is confident and does not care what one thinks. In actuality, he or she may be experiencing low morale and feel inferior. Making every effort to learn how to speak correctly, how to think of others and be courteous and to engage in personal grooming to have a proper appearance

An unwillingness to help one in the time of need is the biggest discourteous behaviour one can extend to another. These well behaved courteous people are the foundation of the good society and nation, but these days the number of these type of people are limited. That is why our society is suffering a lot from ill antisocial activities.

Courteous person is liked and loved by all and therefore remain very popular among friends and relatives. “Courtesy begets courtesy” is just a gems of practical wisdom that is drummed into our ears since childhood. Courtesy costs nothing but pays a lot in return. It is because Courtesy creates great atmosphere of living with coherence. Most of the people whom we come across everyday are generally arrogant, impatient and self-cantered. They neither loves other nor are loved by any of them.

The elders, seniors and parent have to play a big role in our society and help in building nation courteous and well behaved by imparting the parameters of good behaviour and courtesy in youngster, subordinates and children respectively. Teachers have also great role to model our students on right path of courtesy. The value of courtesy must be kept at one of the top priority level in the schools. It also have a monitoring process and regulation from government side to create healthy social atmosphere.

Where on one hand we judge ourselves by what we feel capable of doing, there on the other side, we are adjudicated by others by what we have already done. This shows how courteous, considerate and generous we are, not only in some circumstances, but to everyone at all times. Intelligence cannot be combined with courtesy because to be courteous one need not be intelligent, even and illiterate person can be extremely courteous whereas a person with high intellect be full of arrogance and attitude. It is an old saying that very often we find a golden room in a wooden house.

We need not re-write old laws, especially the one about kind hearts are coronets because even small courtesies sweeten life. There will be many with different view than me. I appreciate them and will never say that they are wrong with a hope that they too give me that courtesy. A tree is known by its fruit; a man by his deeds and a good deed is never lost; because he who sows courtesy reaps friendship, and he who plants kindness always gathers love.

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