TRANSFORMATION IS UNACCEPTABLE

This text is in consideration for the beleaguered Indian males who feel challenged with a transformed group they seem to be so unfamiliar with: The Modern Indian Woman!

On one side where she is an incredible and marvellous attraction to him but on the other side she is a huge mystery as well. Since his childhood he has always been pampered by his traditional and possessive grandmother and affectionately cuddled by his mother. They leave an incredible impression as they are those who have always enjoyed the peaceful, uncontroversial role of a housewife who have been largely cocooned within their household domain.

But, nowadays the new generation of women seems to have wheels under their feet. Girls of today are extremely ambitious and focused. They seem to emerge from clearly defined boundaries of their homes and enter schools, colleges with a well-defined role at the workplace. They efficiently rearrange their career and social life along with her family life following all the traditions and festivities. A great amalgamation of Western emancipation and Indian warmth, full of compassion and family values. They are extremely talented and progressive trying their best to walk on equal footings with men in all fields of the society.

On contrary to this, it is very difficult to replace the mind-set of a man with a picture of a homely woman in his thoughts to exactly the opposite - a strong, intelligent, independent, economically self-sufficient one. It’s hard for him to accept. Where on one side he is happy with a transformed personality of his life partner, on the other hand she is also expected to fulfil all her other duties as a house wife too. This way there is double responsibility on her shoulders which she is too proud to perform without even feeling the pain of it.

It’s not something that has just happened slowly, but in one generation’s lifetime, over just a few decades. What he grew up looking at and what he is now confronted with is in stark contrast. They admire working women, do not want a working women as their life partner. WHY? Why such narrow mindedness? It is high time he start breaking his own intellectual stereotype of such baseless deep-rooted thought processes.

Unity is Strength

Where, most men erroneously perceive liberation of women as losing power and control over them. There, the fortunate few see it as a magnificent union of equals. It is indeed fortunate because the true strength of a man isn’t in domination but it’s in being strong enough to respect her for her life choices, instead of being threatened by her individuality. Walking together hand in hand doubles the strength as one and one make eleven.

The major fact is that women are more relationally sophisticated, and can manage their lives as well as emotions far better than men do for modernization with awareness is transforming the girls towards a bright future.

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