“With Every Loss, There Is a Gain”

“With Every Loss, There Is a Gain”

Loss and gain are the two sides of coin which an individual carries in lifetime where, the right decisions is the head and wrong ones are the tails. This serves as the most important cause of happiness and sorrow in our lives because it is directly associated and it should also be kept in mind that it is not necessary that every decision taken turns to be correct. Sometimes, even a change can even incur into losses, though we had thought it to be for our improvement. For example changing a school or changing a job, failing in class or losing a job, having a transfer or watching our industry to go into huge losses leads to being under pressure with very few options for what to do or where to go. We should accept it sportingly because we running away from any situation does not solve the issue instead complicates is more. By simply running away from the situation we cannot escape the truth, so why not face it boldly and bravely? It’s an unpleasant truth that when we come across one problem, there are many others waiting to embrace us from all the sides and in such circumstances arises, life seems catastrophic. 

Today, even simple living is a big challenge. With the top most priority to earn our bread and butter, there are mortgages whose installments are to be paid along with lifestyles to be maintained and to educate our children besides various other unwarranted obligations to meet. It becomes extremely challenging to sustain no matter how hard we work while considering the loss of an opportunity at times seems to be highly unjustifiable. As survival is for the fittest, one unknowingly feels trapped into a cobweb of difficulties which itself seems enigmatic. When we sit to contemplate on what's next to originate, to accept the situation becomes very challenging for we are not ready to change our approach from negative to a positive one.  Then one failure seems to be the end of everything. As there is always an end to every battle, such dark phases also pass away leaving with an opportunity for something much better. In a state of loss, our senses get numb, we lack motivation, direction and vitality.  This is the time when we should be extraordinary attentive with all our reflexes strong and unwavering.

A lucrative opportunity on the other hand is very difficult to resist and if that turns out to be unprofitable, then it gets rather difficult to withstand and the struggle to fight it straining out more energy than essential. But fighting through that phase reforms us into a much stronger personality. At that moment even a small positive result is capable enough to knock down that negativity to a fruitful one leading to a good improvements to our competencies. Exploring options through the screen of bitterness and anger is virtually impossible for our decisions is clouded and there is a complete black out burrowing us into depression and desolation. 

Many people have been treated unfairly, cheated of their rightful place and compensation, robbed of their sense of trust for contracts and agreements, and have lost their footing as they grappled with how things have changed in the world.  There is every reason to be upset when the rug has been pulled out under the feet, whether personally or professionally. In fact, the practical experience of life is entirely dissimilar from the theories we have read and observed. When you see the foundation of your belief and trust crumble, arise of such an emotion is very natural, but the beauty of this time is that you get ample of time for introspection, hence rebuild and correct the flaws that you once possessed and were unaware of.  The sooner you can get out from victim mode to an architect mode, the better it is for you and your people.

The main implication of it is to move on with whatever resources we possess taking the good aspects always along.  Just concentrate on the new situation and with our skillful qualities, success and achievements we shall definitely serve ourselves for the foreseeable future.  The problem is that we are more bothered about what the world will say i.e. the environment around which we live in. We lose hope in ourselves and ask others to guide us. That is why we get so much opposition from others in our life when we decide to move away from something that seems not to be working, you feel detached and lonely.

Remember, life is not an illusion and time cannot be carried forward but it lives in your memories.  Your failure is past, and what you should carry with you is the hope optimistic future and the determination to achieve it.  Always contemplate on to what it will be if you gave your future in other’s hands before taking any such decision.

 

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