EDUCATION

Special focus on women’s education is needed because the knowledge and empowerment of one woman can bring about a change in a family and then the society as a whole. It is the uneducated and illiterate people who think women are not entitled to education.

The right to education also includes a responsibility to provide basic education for individuals who have not completed primary education. In addition to this, access to education provisions the right to education encompasses the obligation to rule out discrimination at all levels of the educational system, to set minimum standards and to improve quality of education.

For instance, you can gain huge amount of information by reading books for the subject you are interested in such as current affairs, mathematics, exchange rates and so on. Better education can make a person more civilized and useful for the society. One cannot image a prosperous life without appropriate education.

Education also helps to develop healthy surroundings. Every object that a mankind creates is based over the knowledge that he attains through education. The more the society develops the more life becomes dependent over education.

A person becomes perfect with education as he is not only gaining something from it, but also contributing to the growth of a nation. We all realise the importance of education and must aim to ensure that each citizen of our nation is educated and independent.

Education not only moulds the new generation, but reflects a society’s fundamental assumptions about itself and the individuals which compose it. Empowerment in the stages of growth of any nation. In any education system, higher education encompassing Management, Engineering, Medicines etc., plays a major role in imparting knowledge, values, and developing skills and, in the process, increase the growth and productivity of the nation.

Life would be detrimental and disastrous without quality education. Hence it is the prime duty of mankind to try to make education available in every part of the world.

Education

          Makes people healthier

          Helps to save lives

          It boosts economic growth

          Helps to earn money

          Fosters peace in the society and even amongst nations.

          Helps to eradicate poverty.

          Promotes rights for women and children in the society.

          Encourages good governance, transparency and stability.

          Helps awareness amongst the people of their fundamental rights.

These are not all but few aspects of education. As not only restricted to study hard and score good results, education also means to conquer new effects towards the betterment of mankind because even one educated individual can create a big difference between wrong and right or evil and good. Education is a big social responsibility of every nation where education of women is should be must as the empowerment and knowledge of one woman can revolutionise her family first and then the society.

However the inequalities in the standards of education are still a major issue that needs to be solved as early as possible. The importance of education is our life cannot be ignored at any cost for it is the only way to acquire knowledge.

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HAPPINESS

HAPPINESS

Happiness is a state of mind in which even people possessing great riches along with a big mansion and fancy cars etc. are incapable to make themselves happy. It is the inner sense that makes you contended and satisfied, therefore we must understand that happiness is a journey not a destination with a beginning, a middle and an end and on its completion which we enjoy to the utmost while travelling. Living each day and savouring every moment of it as if it were our last should be our resolution and we must learn to cope with our frustration because total control in life is rarely possible and we get frustrated for different reasons on various issues.

Our frustration should be at such a tolerance level as too much control kills happiness and feeds further frustration. We should embrace the present as there’s no point in waiting for tomorrow to wait in a hope which will bring more of impatience and that is what leads to unhappiness.

Today is all what we have, right now is all that we possess and we need to appreciate and thank the Almighty for what we enjoy. We should let our imagination soar and enjoy with our family because banking on the future to make us happy is a sheer gamble that can betray us at any point of time.

When we’re focused and aware of our ambitious goals, we are likely to feel contented and happy because if we don’t know of our expectations, then life shall be dull and boring making it aimless therefore always make small achievable goals and pursue for them vigorously as goals are the only essence of hope besides an inspiration to a prosperous future. Make sure we have goals, but reach to them in a balanced way. Enjoy even the small things in life as the happiness we get from such deeds cannot be purchased by many millionaires as money is not everything. Chasing after life’s big pleasures instead of the small ones is futile in the pursuit of happiness because it is as if we are losing tiny sparkling diamonds that are strewn across our path.

Never sacrifice family for the sake of achievements because family is the one who is the real well-wisher and always wants to see us happy and smiling even during odd circumstances. Just imagine for a moment … you are extremely rich living in a big house of your dreams with an expensive car and rich bank account and plan for a luxurious five star holiday. No doubt it is wonderful that you have achieved what you aimed for, but how, with whom and on what cost? You are standing all alone with no one to share your happiness whereas your other family members who may not be having so much wealth are united and happily enjoying themselves with each other. For wealth you might have sacrificed your family, but your family preferred sacrificing you for happiness.

You may have had to relegate your loved ones to the second best, but you have a failed a precious relationship in your awakening, and you have missed all your children’s childhood years, or been too busy to celebrate birthdays and remember anniversaries. At the end of the day, it’s no good having all life’s luxuries if there’s nobody meaningful to share them with.

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A LETTER OF THANKSGIVING TO MY REVEREND GURUJI

 My Dear Guruji,

Noble soul like you seldom come. You have sacrificed your life for the betterment of the people. Sweet memories of your human form enriches your pulsating presence into my life. Time marches on but memories stay, Guruji you are loved, served and remembered each day and every moment. Days and months roll onto years, but your holy presence is always the same? A thousand time I needed you, a thousand time I wept, your divine existence was always there to guide and console me always.  I believe that everything that comes our way is with a purpose but it is also true that without your warmth and affection I was capable of nothing. Your tough examinations though wounded me badly, still it was with your blessings only that I could go through them. A number of times, you have squeezed me like a lemon and sometimes even rolled me through the rolling mill.  It was only with your inspiration and guidance only that kept me confident and self-assured to walk on and on. I can always sense you in my breath and every moment, every day until my death. I am fully blessed for your soul resides in my heart. Our special bond is like the two sides of a page where the front side is you and the back side is me. As page can be torn into pieces, but its sides can never be separated, similarly is our relationship.

This significant day is very auspicious for me and your disciples and is much beyond your birthday. It’s a celebration of someone who is deeply loved and greatly admired. Guruji I thank you for everything. It is because of you we are what we are, today. I know you are always with us and will always remain with all of us.

‘HAPPY BIRTHDAY’

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'HAPPY BITHDAY GURUJI'

“With Every Loss, There Is a Gain”

“With Every Loss, There Is a Gain”

Loss and gain are the two sides of coin which an individual carries in lifetime where, the right decisions is the head and wrong ones are the tails. This serves as the most important cause of happiness and sorrow in our lives because it is directly associated and it should also be kept in mind that it is not necessary that every decision taken turns to be correct. Sometimes, even a change can even incur into losses, though we had thought it to be for our improvement. For example changing a school or changing a job, failing in class or losing a job, having a transfer or watching our industry to go into huge losses leads to being under pressure with very few options for what to do or where to go. We should accept it sportingly because we running away from any situation does not solve the issue instead complicates is more. By simply running away from the situation we cannot escape the truth, so why not face it boldly and bravely? It’s an unpleasant truth that when we come across one problem, there are many others waiting to embrace us from all the sides and in such circumstances arises, life seems catastrophic. 

Today, even simple living is a big challenge. With the top most priority to earn our bread and butter, there are mortgages whose installments are to be paid along with lifestyles to be maintained and to educate our children besides various other unwarranted obligations to meet. It becomes extremely challenging to sustain no matter how hard we work while considering the loss of an opportunity at times seems to be highly unjustifiable. As survival is for the fittest, one unknowingly feels trapped into a cobweb of difficulties which itself seems enigmatic. When we sit to contemplate on what's next to originate, to accept the situation becomes very challenging for we are not ready to change our approach from negative to a positive one.  Then one failure seems to be the end of everything. As there is always an end to every battle, such dark phases also pass away leaving with an opportunity for something much better. In a state of loss, our senses get numb, we lack motivation, direction and vitality.  This is the time when we should be extraordinary attentive with all our reflexes strong and unwavering.

A lucrative opportunity on the other hand is very difficult to resist and if that turns out to be unprofitable, then it gets rather difficult to withstand and the struggle to fight it straining out more energy than essential. But fighting through that phase reforms us into a much stronger personality. At that moment even a small positive result is capable enough to knock down that negativity to a fruitful one leading to a good improvements to our competencies. Exploring options through the screen of bitterness and anger is virtually impossible for our decisions is clouded and there is a complete black out burrowing us into depression and desolation. 

Many people have been treated unfairly, cheated of their rightful place and compensation, robbed of their sense of trust for contracts and agreements, and have lost their footing as they grappled with how things have changed in the world.  There is every reason to be upset when the rug has been pulled out under the feet, whether personally or professionally. In fact, the practical experience of life is entirely dissimilar from the theories we have read and observed. When you see the foundation of your belief and trust crumble, arise of such an emotion is very natural, but the beauty of this time is that you get ample of time for introspection, hence rebuild and correct the flaws that you once possessed and were unaware of.  The sooner you can get out from victim mode to an architect mode, the better it is for you and your people.

The main implication of it is to move on with whatever resources we possess taking the good aspects always along.  Just concentrate on the new situation and with our skillful qualities, success and achievements we shall definitely serve ourselves for the foreseeable future.  The problem is that we are more bothered about what the world will say i.e. the environment around which we live in. We lose hope in ourselves and ask others to guide us. That is why we get so much opposition from others in our life when we decide to move away from something that seems not to be working, you feel detached and lonely.

Remember, life is not an illusion and time cannot be carried forward but it lives in your memories.  Your failure is past, and what you should carry with you is the hope optimistic future and the determination to achieve it.  Always contemplate on to what it will be if you gave your future in other’s hands before taking any such decision.

 

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CONFESSION

CONFESSION

“When I returned home that night and my wife, Surabhi, served me dinner, I held her hand and softly said, “I’ve got something to tell you.” She quietly sat down and started pecking at the food in front of her. Her eyes seemed to be reflecting unhappiness and the hurt in her eyes was easily visible.

Unexpectedly I didn’t know how to open my mouth to complete what I had to say. But I had to let her know what I had in mind. I wanted a divorce. I gathered up my complete courage and spoke my heart out to her very calmly indeed. She did not react to my words and infact didn’t seem to be annoyed also, instead she very gently asked me the reason, why?

I avoided her question. This made her angry. She threw away the plate in front of her and shouted at me! That night, we didn’t talk to each other. She was weeping and I knew she wanted to find out the reason as to what had happened to our marriage. But I could hardly give her a satisfactory answer. I had lost my heart to Sara. I didn’t love her anymore, instead just pitied her!

With an unfathomable guilt, I got the divorce agreement drafted that stated that she could own our house, our car, and 30% stake of my company and handed it over to her. She looked at me, glanced at the mere piece of paper in her hand and then tore it into pieces. The woman who had spent ten years of her life with me, that very moment, seemed to be a complete stranger.  I felt sorry for her but could not go back from my decision as I loved Sara deeply. Not getting any relevant answer from me, she howled and screamed in front of me, which was what I had expected to see. To me her cry was actually a kind of release from my own sense of guilt for the idea of divorce had obsessed me for several weeks seemed to be firmer and clearer now, giving me a solid reason too.

The next day, I came back home late to find her writing something at the table. I didn’t have supper but went straight to sleep and fell asleep very fast because I was tired after an eventful day with Sara. At mid night when I woke up, she was still there at the table busy writing. I just did not care and turned over to sleep.

In the morning, after I breakfast, she handed that paper on which were neatly written the conditions for her divorce: Inquisitively I went through it and was surprised at its text: she didn’t want anything from me, but needed only a month’s notice before the divorce. She further requested that in that one month, we both struggle to live as normal a life as possible. Her reasons were simple: our son had his exams in a month’s time and she didn’t want to disrupt him with our broken marriage.

This was agreeable to me. But she had something more, she asked me to remember how I had used to carry her into out to the living room for months after our marriage. On it she requested me that every morning for a month I should carry her out of our bedroom to the front door daily. This was indeed very a foolish demand. I thought she was going crazy and just to make that last month together bearable I accepted this peculiar request of hers.

I told Sara about these divorce conditions. She laughed and considered it to be absurd. She scornfully commented that no matter what ever tricks Surabhi applied, she will have to face this divorce.

My wife and I hadn’t had any body contact since my divorce intention was explicitly expressed. So when I carried her out on the first day, we both appeared awkward. Our son seemed to be extremely happy and clapped behind us, daddy is holding mommy in his arms and his words gave me a sense of pain that itched my heart. From the bedroom to the sitting room, then to the door, I just walked over ten meters with her in my arms. She closed her eyes and said softly; don’t tell our son about the divorce. I nodded, feeling somewhat upset. I put her down outside the door. She went out towards her car to go to work while I drove alone to the office.

On the second day, both of us felt much more comfortable with each other. She leaned on my chest and I could smell the sweet fragrance of her body. That particular moment, I realized that I hadn’t looked at this woman, who is my wife, for a long time. I noticed that she was not young anymore and there were fine wrinkles on her face, her hair was greying! Our marriage had taken its toll on her. For a minute I wondered what I had done to her.

The fourth day, when I lifted her up, I felt a sense of intimacy returning. I definitely owed something to this the woman who had given ten years of her precious life to me. Similarly, the fifth and sixth day, the realization that our feeling of closeness was building up again. It became easier to carry her as the month slipped by. Perhaps the everyday workout made me stronger. I didn’t tell Sara about this.

One day, she was struggling with wardrobe, choosing what to wear to office. She tried on quite a few dresses but could not find a suitable one. Then she sighed out loud, ‘all my dresses have grown bigger.’ That particular moment made me aware of her thin physique. The reason why I could carry her easily was that she had grown so thin.My consciousness hit me… she had buried so much pain and bitterness in her heart. Subconsciously I went up to her and touched her head. Why had she gone so weak?The next moment our son came in and said, Dad, it’s time to carry mom out. To him, seeing his father carrying his mother out had become an essential part of his life. My wife gestured to our son to come closer and hugged him tightly. The fear that I might change my mind at this last minute made me look away. I picked her up in my arms and walked from the bedroom, through the sitting room, to the hallway. Her hand surrounded my neck softly and naturally. I held her body closely, the way I used to once after our marriage. But her light weight body perturbed me. How could I be so naïve not to notice this drastic change in her? 

It was the last day of the months’ notice, when I held her tightly in my arms, I could hardly move a step. Our son had gone to school. I held her closely tight for the realization had hit me hard that our life was perfect, it only lacked intimacy and closeness which I hadn’t noticed off. I rushed to office…. jumped out of the car not even bothering to lock it. I was afraid any delay would make me change my mind…Not even waiting for the lift, I hastily climbed up the stairs. Sara was in the office and I blurted out to her that I was indeed very sorry as I did not want the divorce anymore.

She looked at me, astonished, and then touched my forehead. ‘Do you have a fever?’ She said. I moved her hand off my head. ‘Sorry, Sara, I said, I won’t divorce. My marriage life was boring probably because she and I didn’t value the minute details of our lives, not because we didn’t love each other anymore. Now I have realized that I am supposed to hold her until death do us apart.’ Sara felt offended, burst into tears. She slapped me hard on my face and left the office slamming the door on my face. I felt too relieved and walked downstairs to go home to share this news with Surabhi. On my way home I ordered a bouquet of flowers for my wife and bought an emotional card for her and wrote inside:

‘To my Dearest of Dears,

I know it may be difficult to believe right now, but I have realised that my love for you never faded and have honestly never loved anyone more than you. I have no excuse for what happened but I would request you to pick up from where we left off- and I promise that I’ll carry you out every morning until death do us apart.’

Truly and only Yours

Rahul’

That evening I arrived home, flowers in my hands, a smile on my face, I ran upstairs, only to find my wife lying peacefully in bed - dead. Surabhi had been fighting CANCER for months and I was so busy engrossed with Sara to even notice it. She knew that she would die soon and she entangled me into the entire situation just to save me from any negativity from our son, if in case we pushed through with the divorce. My head bowed down in shame because even when she was fighting with life, she was more worried about me and my prestige in the eyes of our son— I’m a loving and caring husband….

The Message……

The small details of our lives are what really matter in a relationship. Real soul-mates are those who bring out the best in you. They may not perfect but are definitely perfect for you. It is not the mansion, the car, property, the money in the bank that give pleasure with a feeling of belongingness for these can only create an environmental conduciveness for happiness and comfortable living only. So find time to be your spouse’s friend and do those little things for each other to keep that intimacy alive.

If you are not in a relationship now, remember this always because the real tragedy in life is that the only folks we really wound are those we love the most and we flatter those we scarcely know because in the race to please the fleeting guest we unknowingly hurt those who love and care for us the most.

“Wake up! It’s never too late.”

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“LIVE YOUR LIFE”

When a baby is born, he is so sweet and innocent. He is a toy for others relaxation and we happily spend our free time playing, talking and teasing him. Every person, be it an adult or a child, an old or a youth love to spend time with the little tiny tot as these children are lost in his own world with no tensions or worries. They react to your sound, actions and laugh at your teases.

Imagine we all were the same when we were born, so carefree and cheerful, loved by all, but what have we become now. How do we feel today? Are we the same? Are we living in exuberance? Do we love what we’re doing? Are we happy with our achievements? Are we looking forward to what’s coming up next? In Nut shell are we living our best life? Just sit down sometime and ponder on these very small questions very honestly and I promise the answers will not be as simple as it seems.

Have we ever tied to even give a thought as to why such a drastic change has come onto us if we were so cheerful and happy as a child, and this is when our brain, at that age was not even developed to understand and think of what is right or wrong, but now when we are grownups and can use the best of our brain for our own betterment, we have totally changed. Why?

The answer is simple if we agree to it honestly:

Just give a thought. Have we ever realised that from the moment a child holds books in his hand and starts going to a playschool, he begins his fight with the world around him because he has to be the best amongst all. Comparison with other children is the beginning of his transformation because then starts the implantation of the negative qualities of competition, jealousy envy and bitterness etc. which further ripens to our adulthood into ill feelings such as antagonism, rivalry, greed, distrust and cynicism etc. which changes life completely. He start segregating, choosing and reasoning unnecessarily within himself restricting himself into a circle that unknowingly makes us his life fully mechanical and artificial, taking him far away from the real happiness of Natural Living. 

It is true that even today, if we peep deep within us, we shall find that internal happiness we seek for, but it is not possible as we are tightly tied with the strings of the world around us. Under the layers of several unwanted characteristics, the real person under has been deeply embedded and to dig it out, one needs complete determination and a strong will power. The desire to be better than others does not let us live in peace. Have we appreciated the fact that we may be much better than others because others they might not be having what we have i.e. internal peace, happiness and contentment.

Just imagine this world without sunlight, natural resources and natural beauty that we enjoy and love. Had God been partial with us and deprived us of these natural gifts, the world would have become a dull and boring place to live in and to spend even a single minute would have been next to impossible for all of us. So why not appreciate and be thankful of what we have instead of running ahead to get what we don’t possess. In short today our lives are fully mechanical and artificial. We are losers even after enjoying all the luxuries and facilities of life.

Why be so generous to settle for anything less than to what we can get? We definitely deserve nothing but the best.  This life is a Gift of God and we should live it the best. We should all resolve together to a fresh start to live our life afresh to make this world a better place to live in.

OUR RESOLUTIONS:

Quit complaining about your problems and work on them instead.

Be proactive and stop waiting for others around you to do something. Start focussing on the things you can act upon to take action yourself.

Focus on your priorities. The most constructive thing you can do in any situation is to focus on what you’re your priorities first and how to do it.  Anything is possible, as long as you set your mind, heart and soul to it.

Create your own opportunities and believe me it is more definite and much more empowering. Be committed to the growth in the map of consciousness. The higher level of consciousness you are in, the richer you.

Know your inner self i.e. know who you are and what you represent. Be clear of your personal identity. 

Stop putting life on hold. Create your life handbook. That shall be a long personal manual to live your best life – from your mission statement, your values, your long-term goals, short-term goals, personal strengths, blind spots to address, plans, among others.

Don’t do things for the sake of doing them and always evaluate what you’re doing and only do it if there is meaning behind them. Don’t be afraid to quit the things that don’t serve your path.

Do the things you love, because life is too precious to spend it doing anything else. If you don’t enjoy something, then don’t do it. Spend your time and energy on things that bring you fulfilment and happiness.

Discover your passion in life. Explore yourself to know what you love to do. Make your passion a full-fledged career and then start pursuing it to turn your passion into a huge success.

Learn from criticism. Be open to criticism but don’t be affected by it. Criticism is meant to help you be a better person and you learn from it.

Be positive in approach as well as thoughts. Is the glass half empty or half full? How about neither? It’s actually all full as the bottom half is water, the top half is air. Take on empowering perceptions for it’s all a matter of perception because if you can see the positive sides of everything, you’ll be able to live a much richer life than others.

Be empathetic. If we only see life from our own perspective, we’ll forever be close-minded and insular hence we should always try to see things from others’ side too.

Be a compassionate person. Show compassion and kindness to everyone around you. Stop trying to please other people or be someone else. It’s better to be an original version of yourself than replica of someone else.

Try to forget the past. Do not let the past hold you and be true to yourself as to who you are?  Living in the past shall never let you live your life. Forgive those who may have done you wrong in the past and forget the bad phase to enjoy the present.

Quit yourself of attachments. Don’t fixate yourself with a certain status, fame, wealth or material possessions. These are impermanent and will ultimately disappear one day when you die. Just focus on living life to the fullest.

Withdraw from relationships that hurt you. This means people who don’t respect you or are taking advantage of you or any relationship of any kind that upsets your mental balance should be kept at arm’s length.

Spend more time with people who enable you. Go out with people who you compatible with, like-minded people, people who are positive, successful, strong achievers and positive for your growth. Build genuine, authentic connections with people around you – strangers, friends, family, colleagues, business partners, customers/clients, etc. Spend more time to know them better and foster stronger connections.

Develop 100% Self-Belief and 100% Self Confidence: This is of utmost importance. Self-confidence is never inherited, it's learned. The belief that you lack the confidence genes is just a myth. With Self-confidence you will be able to handle any situation correctly. Believe in yourself and your abilities.  Replace your limiting beliefs with empowering ones. If you don’t believe in yourself, how can you expect others to believe in you?

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