Tough Times Never Last Tough People Do

Never Lose Hope: Hope is something we all have within us when times get tough and rough. Another word for Hope is love and with hope and love, even the most impossible can be made possible. Hope is the pillar that holds up the world for everything that is done is done with a hope. We may not always have a comfortable living and may not always be able to solve all the problems spontaneously but never ever underestimate your own ability in doing so because if courage can be contagious, then hope can take on a life on its own. We should always make positive pledges within the family each day by reading and listening to positive and powerful events and also by associating ourselves with encouraging, positive thinkers.

We should always try our best to never lose hope in any situation:

1.    Believe in yourself. Identify your strengths and enhance them so that you can overcome your weaknesses. There is nothing impossible on earth if you believe you can accomplish it. Always remember the quote “TRY And TRY AGAIN, TILL YOU SUCCEED”. Believing in yourself is the key to success in life.  

2.    Always be brave to accept the Reality. Ups and downs are the diversities in everyone’s life and we all should be bold enough to face it as it comes. This is easier said than done because the one who is enduring such a situation feels totally lost and lonely.  Many questions seem to haunt the brain –“how will stable myself?”, “will I ever find happiness again?” and the most common “what do I do now?”“What will people think of me?” etc. It is understandable that a sudden change can be difficult to handle and accept, but one day it will definitely get better. The toughest part in such a situation is that one must accept the truth and be prepared for what it is but still must not lose hope for a bright new day.Remember a situation where we find ourselves weak may seem impossible but it is better to be prepared and fight through it for there is definitely an end to every battle.

 

 3.    Balance your reality with faith. Don’t lose faith, prayers stabilizes hope when we feel it dwindling. Accepting the reality with a hope to succeed through shall help to maintain the equilibrium of the turmoil created by different other negative aspirations. Time heals all wounds and hope is a balm. Hope is a medicine that not only cures us but also others around us.

4.    Stay calm and never let your feelings reflect on your face.  Always show a cheerful face and avoid sad and gloomy expressions, it will not only cheer us up but will be a great help in passing the phase smoothly with the help of our friends as well as an old saying, “smile and the world smiles with you, cry – you cry alone.”

5.    Identify reasons for failure. Everyone fails to achieve some goal, but if we learn from the failure, we will be more likely to succeed in the future. “SUCCESS” And “FAILURE” are the most important part of life and every individual has to face it at least once in a life span.So we should be brave and hopeful to face it with courage and dignity for “NO ONE IS PERFECT”. Face it boldly and don’t take the easy way out by giving up. Always remember that no one recovers from a large failure overnight. It takes time for the situations to be conducive and then to heal.

    6. Be positive and think Positive. We should try to remain in the company of those people you admire for it will be very easy to start believing in our own self when we are in the company of those who have set their goals and achieved it. This is a nice way to bring out ideas about how to accomplish our own goal. Walk around with a smile, and be friendly, pleasant and nice. Talk with kindness, encouragement, civility, and respect so that you are fun to work with. Instead of complaining, sulking or gossiping, we should listen to them with interest.

   7. Never give up. We should give our best at every opportunity that come across our way. Any effort to improve our own self by accomplishing tasks will not be a mere waste of time but will be a learning process. We all are stronger than we think and any one little setback is not enough to stop us from moving ahead towards our cherished desired goals. We definitely deserve the best and to get that we have to succeed. We should never give up until we reach our destination!

8.    Be patient and persistent.Goals are set by each and every single individual but only those could accomplish them who remains persistent and have patience. This is certainly frustrating at times, but it’s a career path that shall bring more joy than any other because facing in the right direction and moving slowly will definitely give fruits to admire. Nothing great is ever accomplished without persistence and patience because, in order to be successful, our dreams must translate into work. 

9.    Introspection. Every single individual is aware of the word “Introspection”, but do we really practice it. Introspection is the examination of our soul that helps in clearing our thoughts, builds self-confidence and identifies our weaknesses. If we are sincere in practicing this art, then there is nothing that will stop us from accomplishing our goals or targets. This particular exercise is very simple as it needs no laboratory or test materials instead can be used at any time and at any place.

10. Time. A famous quote “Time heals all wounds, and hope is a balm”. If we do feel that something bad has happened than we must not panic or blame our self for it. As the time will pass we will understand that it was a part of life and we were capable enough to handle such situations in the future. So always believe something better is waiting for you ahead. To expect a long-term view without difficulties is not possible at all, so it’s better to come, persevere knowing that we are going to get over it one day.

 

11. Focus on your strengths. We should focus on our strengths, rather than sulk on our weaknesses for concentrating on such areas will boost up our spirits to fight more toughly. We should also keep a check on our weaknesses and work on them. Focusing on what we don’t do well only weakens our confidence, enthusiasm, creativity and overall performance; instead, our attention should be focused on expanding upon strengths and working around our weaknesses.

12.Acknowledge your success. We should never forget to congratulate ourselves for all our successes, whether small or big. This will, in turn, increases our motivation and helps to work on our strengths. Once a while we can even look back into our past achievements and acknowledge ourselves for the same. “But that’s the past,”and it doesn’t make much of a difference. 

It is hope that makes the present moment less difficult to bear because if we believe that tomorrow shall be better, the hardships we face today will seem less difficult. A situation where we tend to lose hope in everything may seem rare at that particular moment, but tragedy occurs when we also stop trying for positive results.

“Effective people are not problem-minded; they're opportunity-minded. They feed opportunities and starve problems.”

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          SOMEONE SPECIAL

When I think of you with my eyes closed ,
  The more of you I see…….enclosed,
Your contour image….dim and blurring

          Honest fully… the mind is turning

    Your melodious voice I recall

       Springs immeasurable peace overall.

A feeling of ecstasy overtakes

Drives the determination with lucky breaks.

Lost to eternity, my body and soul,

Over my senses, I have no control.

Suddenly, I realise with open eyes…

Aimless life of mine, beckoning me,

To its whirl…….. Shall remain the same

Till the scarlet splendour of your name

I’ll write upon the shrinking skies

Shall quench my heart with your flame.

FOR

Your presence in my mundane life,

Is a radiant jewel, my mystical wife?

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Raksha Bandhan

Raksha Bandhan is the most awaited Hindu festival commemorates the bond of love between a brother and sister.  this day literally translates to the 'bond of protection.' To celebrate this festival, brothers and sisters meet and exchange wishes. Sisters then tie a rakhi on their brothers' wrists, and an exchange of gifts usually takes place. It is a day when siblings pray for each others' well being and wish for each others' togetherness with lots of happiness and goodwill. The significance of Raksha Bandhan festival is huge in our country and is celebrated no lesser than any other festival. It is dedicated to the love of a sister and her brother holding immense importance in relationship. The name of the festival, Raksha Bandhan is made up of two words, Raksha (Protection) and Bandhan (Relation). this particular festival encompasses the warmth shared between the siblings 

Fancy and beautiful Rakhis are made and delicious sweets are prepared long before the Shravana Purnima. According to the Indian tradition, the family members get ready for the rituals early in the morning. Sisters prepare the puja thali which consists of roli, tilak, Rakhi threads, rice grains, aggarbattis (incense sticks), diyas and sweets. 

After offering the rituals to the deities of the family, the sister perform aarti of their brothers and ties Rakhi on their wrist put kumkum tika on the forehead of their brother and offer sweets. Then the brother in return pampers  their sister by giving them special gifts, acknowledging their unconditional love. The bless her with a promise to protect them from all evils of the world. The rituals performed on this occasion might differ from place to place but they carry the same enthusiastic aura throughout the globe.   

In Maharashtra, the festival of Raksha Bandhan is celebrated along with Narali Poornima (coconut day festival). Kolis are the fishermen community of the coastal state. The fishermen offer prayers to Lord Varuna, the Hindu god of Sea, to invoke his blessings. As part of the rituals, coconuts were thrown into the sea as offerings to Lord Varuna. The girls and women tie rakhi on their brother's wrist, as elsewhere.

In Haryana, in addition to celebrating Raksha Bandhan, people observe the festival of Salono. Salono is celebrated by priests solemnly tying amulets against evil on people's wrists. As elsewhere, sisters tie threads on brothers with prayers for their well being, and the brothers give her gifts promising to safeguard her.

Happy Raksha Bandhan, everyone!

 This is an Excellent piece of advice for any one who are feeling low and down or depressed today.   

" In order to Divorce yourself from unhappiness, Always keep the treasurers of happiness with you " 
  
Way To Happiness. 
  

This story is about a beautiful, expensively dressed lady who complained to her psychiatrist that she felt that her whole life was empty, it had no meaning. 

  

So, the lady went to visit a counselor to seek out happiness.  The counselor called over the old lady who cleaned the office floors.  The counselor then said to the rich lady "I'm going to ask  Mary here to tell you how she found happiness. All I want you to do is listen to her." 

  

So the old lady put down her broom and sat on a chair and told her story: "Well, my husband died of malaria and three months later  my only son was killed by a car.  I had nobody... I had nothing left.  I couldn't sleep, I couldn't eat, I never smiled at anyone, I even thought of taking my own life. Then one evening a little kitten followed me home from work.  Somehow I felt sorry for that kitten. It was cold outside, so I decided to let the kitten in. I got it some milk, and the kitten licked the plate clean.  Then it purred and rubbed against my leg and, for the first time in months, I smiled. Then I stopped to think, if helping a little kitten could make me smile, maybe doing something for people could make me happy. So the next day I baked some biscuits and took them to a neighbour who was sick in bed. Every day I tried to do something nice for someone. It made me so happy to see them happy. Today, I don't know of anybody who sleeps and eats better than I do. I've found happiness, by giving it to others." When she heard that the rich lady cried. She had everything that money could buy, but she had lost the things  which money cannot buy. 

"The beauty of life does not depend on how happy you are; But on how happy others can be because of you..." 

  
Happiness is not a destination, 
It's a journey. 
Happiness is not tomorrow, 
It is now. 
Happiness is not a dependency, 
It is a decision. 
Happiness is what you are, 
Not what you have. 
  


May your troubles be less, May your blessings be more, May nothing but happiness come through your door! 
  
Wishing Your Days Be Filled With Happiness, Peace And Good Health.

Self and Identity

People throughout the world are in search of their identity. Infact, they are not in search of their individuality, they are searching happiness and peace. It is only that they are not aware of the same. The characteristics of individuality are independence and self-will.

A man is beyond his mind, body and intellect. A child when born is ignorant of this fact that he/she shall one day be a separate individual! The sense of being an individual develops over the time through social interactions and then personality development. We tend to underestimate the importance of knowing our self and not knowing ourself leads to only confusion and nothing else.

When we don't know who we are and where or what we are heading towards, it's hard to set goals or get motivated or even determining the best course of action gets difficult, so it is indeed very essential to establish who we are before we are able to do anything.

To know our own self we should:

·  Be aware of your strengths, weaknesses, likes and   dislikes.

·  Observe and be aware of your moods, reactions and responses to what is happening around you.

·     Become aware of how these moods and emotions affect your state of mind.

·      Examine how you interact with others.

·     Observe how your environment affects you.

The familiarity with your own self is what to be sought and what has to be understood. A man should be aware of his real identity and by knowing it he will be able to solve most of the problems and complications of life. 

Knowing and understanding yourself better, in turn, leads to decision-making, setting and reaching appropriate goals and ultimately living more a productive life. This knowledge is unlimited by time and space and this is beyond any change.

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A VERY TOUCHING STORY

"My boss drove a luxury car everyday and it was my duty to greet him and to open the gates for him, as I worked as a watchman in his villa. But he never responded back to my greetings.

One day he saw me opening the garbage bags outside the villa in search for any leftover food. But, as usual he never even looked at me, it was like as if he never saw anything!

The very next day I saw a paper bag at the same place, but it was clean and the food inside was covered well. It was fresh and good food like someone had just brought it from the supermarket. I didn't bother as to where it came from, I just took the paper bag and I was so happy about it.

Every day I found this paper bag at the same place with fresh vegetables and all that we needed for home. This became my daily routine. I was eating and sharing this food with my wife and kids. I was wondering who this fool could be?! To forget his paper bag full of fresh food everyday.

One day there was a big problem in the villa and I was told that my boss has died. There were too many guests coming to the villa that day and I didn't get any food that day, so I thought that one of the guests must have taken it. But the same thing happened the 2nd day, the 3rd day and the 4th day.

It went on like this for a few weeks and I found it difficult to provide food for my family, so I decided to ask the wife of my boss for a raise in my salary or else I would quit my job as a watchman.

After I told her, she was shocked, and asked me, how come you never complained about your salary for the last 2 years? And why is this salary not enough for you now? I gave her so many excuses but she was never convinced!

Finally in the end, I decided to tell her the truth, I told her the entire story of the bag of groceries, and as to how it was my daily provision. She then asked me as to when this stopped? I told her after the death of her husband. And then I realized that I stopped seeing the paper bag immediately after the death of my boss. Why didn't I ever think of this before? That it was my boss who was providing this for me? I guess it was because I never thought that a person who never replied to my greetings could ever be this generous!

 His wife started to cry and I told her to please stop crying and that I'm really sorry that I asked for a raise, I didn't know that it was your husband who was providing me with the meals, I’ll remain as a watchman and be happy to provide my service.

His wife told me, I'm crying because I've finally found the 7th person my husband was giving this bag full of food. I knew my husband was giving 7 people everyday, I had already found the 6 people, and all these days I was searching for the 7th person. And today I found out.

From that day onwards, I started to receive the bag full of food again, but this time his son was bringing it to my house and giving it to my hand. But whenever I thanked him, he never replied! Just like his dad!

One day, I told him THANK YOU in a very loud voice! He replied back to me to please not be offended when he doesn't reply, because he has a hearing problem, just like his dad!”

Oh! We have been wrong so many times judging others without knowing the true story behind their actions. Be kind and courteous in dealing with others, for everyone is fighting a hard battle. Be careful, not everything is about you. Before you assume, there is this thing called ASKING.

Don’t just jump to conclusion, because that is truly not an exercise, it may cause you more harm at the end of the day. Many of our problems are caused by how we process what happens around us. Don’t judge a situation you have never been in. Be humble enough to learn. You do not know it all. Lets change the way we feel about ourselves and others.

There are two sides to a story: Don’t believe everything you hear. Everyone you meet is fighting a battle you know nothing about."

SHARING

This is beautiful and means more than a thousand words can say............

"Thousands of candles can be lighted from a single candle,
and the life of the candle will not be shortened.
Happiness never decreases by being shared." 
----- Siddhartha Gautama Buddha

Life isn't easy and we all know that. For some it is even more so difficult than the rest. Happiness and Joy in such a condition seems as a distant horizon for it easily wearies the mind, body, and soul of a person.

The greatest gift we can give to ourselves and everyone around is the gift of sharing. In a situation where any one of us has been blessed with the priceless gift of delight, we should hasten to share it out with those who may be needing it too. Perhaps a smile... a warm thought... a kind word... a helpful gesture... a prayer... or maybe just a simple hug can do wonders. This may perhaps seem unimportant and insignificant ... but to the person you will be giving it shall the whole world.

Happiness and joy is contagious. All it takes is to light up the spark and the sooner than we think, that tiny spark bursts into huge flames quickly warming those plenty hearts around you reaching out to everyone with its light. Share this gift freely. It shall only enhance by spreading and we will not lose anything. In fact, it doubles up in huge measure and becomes a blessing it was meant to be. For them..... As well for us.

Without a second thought we should invest our energy into cultivating relationships as such associations are like a garden, the more time we spend tending and planting in the garden, the more spectacular the garden turns out to be. Similarly, our focus should be on investing our time, effort and imagination into developing and maintaining meaningful relationships as it is our sincere efforts only that shall yield good results and we shall see all the relationships flourishing and growing.

We live in a truly abundant universe that is filled with opportunities and possibilities. We should give ourselves and everyone around us the gift of our ongoing personal development because when we commit to take care of ourselves, we become a better, friend, business partner, employee, spouse etc. Believe in yourself and the support everyone around you can, this way we shall discover the key to unlock our unlimited potential.

Teach the people how you should be treated by treated them the same way. When we project an exemplary picture to the world, in which we commit to keep improving, we tend to give ourselves freely and this helps others to achieve their dreams too. Exactly the same will be reciprocated back and everyone around us will become part of our support system.

What are you waiting for, take the plunge today and commit to become the type of person you want the world to be. This way the world will seem to change and will be filled with all the right type of people. If you want the world to change, then change the only thing you have control over, change yourself and the world will change. Everything around you will change as you change. Anything you pursue will always elude you; everything you embrace will be attracted to you

Still why are people hesitant? Sharing happiness should become one's second nature. Happiness never gets abridged but expands with multiplier effect by sharing.

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